Ever heard the saying that age is just a number? Well, if you’re a younger man looking to date an older woman, you’ll know that there’s truth in it. Relationships that cross generations are no longer a social taboo and couples with substantial age differences are springing up all over the place.
Age gaps in dating can make for an interesting and exciting dynamic for both you and her. If you’ve never done it before, you may not know what to expect on a date with an older woman.
That is what we will cover in today’s topic. We will go into details about that soon, but in short, older women are a little demanding and advanced. As a younger guy, that means you can benefit from some preparation.
Here’s what you need to know before you go on a date with an older woman!
When dating older women, it’s important to bear in mind that you may be very different stages in your lives. You might still be establishing your career, living in shared accommodation, or saving up to go travelling. She, on the other hand, may already be settled, financially secure, maybe even a mother. This doesn’t apply to everyone, of course. But, if you are living a different lifestyle to the person you’re dating, it will likely lead to conflict.
Try to establish what you’re both looking for from the relationship in the early days, so you can be sure you want the same things.
The first date with an older woman is to get to know you
If you’re in the habit of having sex on the first date with younger women, you may want to rethink that expectation.
It’s not that older women won’t have sex on a first date; it’s just less likely. For most, they’ve been through that phase when they were younger. They know that quick and easy sex isn’t hard to come by and they know where to get it.
Instead, she’s on a date with you for something more. Even if that means a casual relationship, the first date is all about getting to know who you are.
She can already see what you look like and she knows you’re down for sex if given the opportunity. What she’s trying to assess are the other factors she cares about in a man. Are you confident? Mature? Responsible? Kind? Caring?
To her, figuring out who you are is far more important than casual sex.
Women love talking about relationships. Talking about your relationships with your family, friends, and former love interests can make a very intimate conversation. You want to focus on the good relationships and stay away from talking about anyone relationship too much (mother, a bad breakup with an ex, etc.) to avoid coming off as obsessed.
Talking about her experiences as an older woman dating younger men and yours as a younger man dating older women can also be very interesting.
Older women know what they want
Unlike a lot of younger women who are still exploring the dating world, older women have a much stronger idea of what they want. They’re less inclined to “play games” and more willing to go after exactly what it is they desire.
What this means is that you can be more direct and up-front with your intentions and desires. For example, if there’s a lot of sexual tension and you want to bring her back to your place to get physical, you don’t need some cover like “let’s go back to my place and watch a movie”. She knows the real reason you’re inviting her over, and if she wants the same thing she won’t need an excuse to rationalize it.
More sexual than you might think
For one reason or another, we tend to expect older women to be less sexual. It could be because they’re less overt about their sexuality (at least in public). It could also be that you just aren’t going to find a woman getting wasted and making out with strangers in a nightclub.
Those expectations aside, you’ll be very surprised by how sexual older women can be.
She knows what she wants and she wants you to know it.
Just like in my above examples, it’s not uncommon for her to come right out and tell you that she finds you attractive – in some cases, even that she wants to have sex with you. Of course, this requires a certain level of comfort between the two of you – don’t expect that 10 minutes into the first date.
Their sex drive is often quite high, so you have a lot to look forward to in the bedroom. If you play your cards right, she might even teach you a thing or two!
Don’t make a big deal about her age
One thing you want to avoid if you want to have a successful relationship with an older woman is making a big deal about the fact that she is “the older woman.” Though some women are happy to talk about this, other women don’t want to be looked at as “older” and just want to enjoy their relationships on their terms.
Dating older women can be a very exciting and fulfilling thing. Dates with strong, independent, and open women do tend to be a little different, but in a good way.
As long as you take her openness the right way, you can work with it to keep the flow of the date interesting and create sexual tension. If you’re open to trying new things with her, you just might find yourself discovering new activities around your city.
Get out there, enjoy getting to know someone new, and see where it takes you!